Self-reflection for Emotional Control

You may have experienced situations where certain triggers suddenly cause you to be emotionally affected, temporarily throwing you off balance. You feel uncomfortable because the emotion is intense at that moment, permeating every cell of your body. Through self-reflection, you explore those fears, traumas, and pains. Ideally, you want to run away or disappear to regain control over these emotional triggers. I, Chantal, will guide you through an example.

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Self-reflection is like zooming in.

Imagine waking up and looking forward to the day. You have some appointments scheduled, and you feel good. The first conversation with a colleague goes well, and you are cheerful. After the team meeting, you notice that you are emotionally off balance and experiencing insecurity; your thoughts suddenly become heavier, and you doubt yourself. Recognizing this, before entering a third conversation, you decide to zoom in on what is bothering you. Take 10 minutes for yourself and reflect on what happened during the team meeting. As you zoom in from a distance, you realize that the emotion was someone else's. You decide to let go of these emotions and opt for a positive affirmation.

Creating a moment of self-reflection.

The first step, once you become aware of your triggers, is to gain control over your emotions in the present moment, whether you're at work, home, or elsewhere. The second step, after gaining control over your emotions, is to engage in a moment of self-reflection. This provides insight into the lessons learned. I share 6 tips to control your emotions during an emotional trigger.

Step 1: 6 tips to control your emotions in the moment.

  • Take 5 deep breaths (or more). Focus on your breathing to stay in the moment.
  • Feel the emotions and ask yourself, 'What do these emotions tell me?'
  • Create a positive sentence if your thought is negative. For example, 'I can do it!'.
  • Repeat the positive sentence at least 3 times in a row.
  • Feel the positive thought completely changing within your body.
  • Focus on what is possible and take action.

After the situation has passed and you have gained control over your emotions with the above tips, engage in self-reflection. By reflecting on your own experience, you can learn from it. By looking at yourself in the mirror, you can choose to handle situations differently, developing greater awareness. The greater your awareness, the more perspective you have, making it easier to navigate situations.

Self-reflection in 10 steps.

Step 2: 10 steps for self-reflection with triggers.

  1. Schedule weekly time for a self-reflection moment and ensure you are not disturbed.
  2. Find a comfortable place, close your eyes, and take 5 deep breaths.
  3. Feel the calm coming over you and continue deep breathing for a few minutes.
  4. Zoom in on the situation where you experienced the emotional trigger and ask yourself, 'What do these emotions tell me? And why is it okay for me to experience this emotion?'
  5. Allow insights from your subconscious to surface. Don't force anything; continue deep breathing. Take all the time you need.
  6. Write down your insights: the theme of the trigger, what the emotion is trying to tell you, where the situation originated, and what you want to change.
  7. Once you know what you might do differently, create a practical action for yourself.
  8. Schedule this action in your agenda to integrate it into your life alongside the insight.
  9. Conclude the self-reflection session by expressing gratitude.
  10. Take 3 deep breaths, open your eyes, and continue with your day.

Applying this self-reflection makes it easier to let go of an emotional trigger.

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Self-reflection: What happens next?

Everything is energy, and only 5% of what you do is consciously done by you as a human. The remaining 95% resides in your subconscious, of which you are unaware. Think of it like an iceberg: the visible part represents only a fraction of the whole, while the invisible part is the largest. The conscious and subconscious together form the core of your psyche and soul, as described by Carl Jung, the founder of psychology. To free yourself from triggers, it is crucial to bring the 95% of the subconscious to the surface. You may be able to bring up parts of that 95% on your own, but there often is more beneath the surface.

Self-reflection: Why is it important to address the core of triggers?

Deep within that 95%, there are emotional triggers, blocks, illusions, beliefs, and stored traumas and pains. In addition to self-reflection to bring the subconscious within you to the surface, it is important to address the core of triggers, blocks, and illusions where they originated on an energetic level so that:

  • You are liberated from fears, traumas, pains, and illusions.
  • You remain emotionally balanced in any situation.
  • You focus on realizing what you desire or your dream goals.

If you skip this step, you may unconsciously attract people who resonate with your triggers based on your energy. You want to attract people who align with who you are to achieve your desires and goals. If you undertake this step with me, it will change everything in every aspect of your life. You can only change yourself by addressing your subconscious. When your subconscious is balanced, everything in your life changes.

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